Wearing a tattered dress, people remember the dress; wearing an elegant dress, people remember the woman wearing it.

In a woman’s lifetime, it’s important to be a bit selfish, especially after marriage.

Many women, for the sake of love or marriage, let themselves become very sloppy.

When a person becomes sloppy, all others see is the sloppiness, never the effort and sacrifice behind it.

Giving doesn’t always lead to praise. Sometimes, your giving may make you less attractive and even face rejection from others.

Many people like to receive but when they see a woman who looks haggard from family and marriage responsibilities, they mock her appearance and criticize her.

People tend to behave this way; perhaps it’s human nature.

Don’t Let Marriage Turn You Into a Plain Jane

As a woman, you must be able to handle lies, endure indifference, withstand deception, forget promises, and ultimately mask your fallen tears with a smile—it’s better to believe in ghosts than in a man’s empty promises!

So, no matter what happens, never stop moving forward. Always strive to be elegant and forever bloom like a flower.

When I was young, the neighbor’s aunt was exceptionally beautiful.

But when I went back home last year, I found that she had changed. The once beautiful face was gone. She wore slippers and busied herself at home every day.

The aunt’s son didn’t respect her and always thought she was wrong.

Many people think the child is immature, but actually, it’s the child’s grandmother who taught him that way. With no respect for the aunt in the family, the child also disrespects her.

Once, while chatting with the aunt, she mentioned feeling trapped in the household but had to endure it because of her child.

Women, please don’t give up your dreams in the name of raising children! Years later, your child may wish for a fashionable and ambitious mother rather than one who only cleans and cooks!

So, women, don’t halt your progress because of children. Sometimes, be a bit selfish, learn to live for yourself because sometimes even your children may not understand you.

Invest in Yourself

No matter what, always invest in yourself.

There are people around us who do facials every weekend.

They go shopping in their free time and treat themselves with nice things.

Don’t think about those women who are busy with household chores all day or work tirelessly in the office. These women often look much younger than others their age.

Some people get married but still invest in themselves. They learn a skill, painting, or playing a musical instrument, which can change their aura and refine their mindset.

Once, during a conversation with a friend, I emphasized the importance for women to invest in themselves. My friend argued, saying, “How can I invest without money or time?”

Time is always made. Life is about making choices, and if you can’t find time to invest in yourself, how can you expect time to treat you well?

Don’t Compromise Yourself in Marriage

The love and memories a man gives a woman are like tea stains in a cup—she is reluctant to wipe them away, continues to be the cup, but fails to realize that these stains are not good and will only deplete a woman’s youthfulness.

Women shouldn’t prioritize love too much. If a woman loses herself because of a man, unwilling to let go of his feelings and only treats him well, she may end up losing more than gaining.

During a crisis like the pandemic, women must understand that if you tolerate grievances several times, you are bound to endure them for a lifetime. So, when your partner does something incomprehensible or unacceptable, stand up and oppose it.

Sometimes, kindness to others is cruelty to oneself.

Standing up against something isn’t selfish; it’s defending the rights you deserve.

Women should have their own status and not endure endless grievances.

Enduring numerous grievances in a marriage won’t lead to a fulfilling relationship.

Some People Improve After Marriage, Some Worsen

Some people, after many years of marriage, grow and become more refined.

But some people deteriorate after marriage, leaving you shocked when you see them.

There’s a saying: “You can tell a woman’s family from her appearance.”

In marriage, women who don’t understand being selfish and only give will eventually diminish their own aura.

A man can uplift a woman. If a man provides the happiness a woman deserves in marriage, she will only improve over time.

But if a woman loses herself after marriage, facing grievances everywhere and a husband who isn’t kind, she will also deteriorate with time.

Women must know how to make their husbands treat them well after marriage—sometimes be a bit selfish and communicate your desires.

Some women, after marriage, are reluctant to spend money, thinking they should save for the family. While saving is wise, don’t forget to treat yourself well.

A woman’s life requires independence and at times a bit of selfishness, not to harm others but to defend the rights she deserves.

Women are cherished by their parents at home, but after marriage, things change.

Women, after marriage, shouldn’t let their family treat them like spilled water. In the in-laws’ eyes, the woman might not feel like one of their own, but rather an outsider.

So, women should know when to be selfish, learn to love themselves, and then seek love from others.